Category Archives: Perfection

Thought for the Week…

Posted on June 23, 2014 by awentherapy

It is an impossible task. The moment you start trying to please everyone is the moment you set yourself up to fail. And it takes so much energy…it is exhausting. So set a new goal. Work to please yourself and … Continue reading →

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A World of Grey – 50 Shades and More…

Posted on May 6, 2014 by awentherapy

Our culture loves to think of the world in absolutes. Right or wrong. Yes or no. Good or bad. Unfortunately that mindset can make life much more difficult. The reality is that much of the world we navigate through consists … Continue reading →

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What’s Good for the Goose…

Posted on November 19, 2013 by awentherapy

A friend shared the following article by Emma Gray (via The Huffington Post) titled 23 Things Every Woman Should Stop Doing with me. She loved the article, as do I. Her most interesting comment was that she thought this advice applied to … Continue reading →

Posted in Acceptance, Accomodation, Anxiety, Apology, Authentic Self, Awen Therapy, Boundaries, Care, Challenges, Choices, Communication, Compliments, Confidence, Courage, Denying Emotions, Differences, Emily Gray, Emotions, Expectations, Imperfection, Integrity, Jay Blevins, Lily Meyers, MFT, Mistakes, Patterns, Perfection, Perfectionism, Personal Power, Psychotherapy, Relationships, Risk, Rules, Saying No, The Huffington Post, Therapy, Thoughts, Understanding, Values | Tagged Accommodation, Anxiety, Awen Therapy, Change, Emily Gray, Expectations, Failure, Fear, Imperfection, Jay Blevins, Lily Myers, Morals, Perfection, Respect, Risk, Rules, Saying No, Self-Esteem, Strength, The Huffington Post, Therapy, Understanding | Leave a comment

Two Therapists Talking: The Problem with Perfectionism

Posted on August 15, 2013 by awentherapy

In this episode of Two Therapists Talking, Jasmine St. John and I discuss how trying to be perfect can get in our way of being happy. If you have questions or a topic you’d like to hear us discuss, write … Continue reading →

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What Doesn’t Kill Us…

Posted on August 6, 2013 by awentherapy

Philosopher Friedrich Nietczsche said, “whatever doesn’t kill us makes us stronger.” That isn’t always the most comforting saying when we are going through something difficult. And while it may not always be true, there evidence that facing challenges can improve … Continue reading →

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The Importance of Being Who We Are…

Posted on June 11, 2013 by awentherapy

A friend recently sent me a link to a Ted Talk that I hadn’t seen. I’ve talked about Ted Talks in the past but if you are a new reader what I’ll say is that Ted Talks are amazing. You … Continue reading →

Posted in Anxiety, Authentic Self, Awen Therapy, Being Too Nice, Brene Brown, Challenges, Confidence, Courage, Eating Disorders, Emotions, Fear, Glennon Doyle, Identity, Jay Blevins, Mental Hospital, MFT, Perfection, Psychotherapy, TED Talk, Therapy, Vulnerability | Tagged Authenticity, Awen Therapy, Brene Brown, Capes, Emotions, Fear, Glennon Doyle, Identity, Imperfection, Jay Blevins, Mental Hospital, MFT, Ted.com, Therapy, Vulnerability | 1 Comment

Being Right Versus Being Kind – Take 2…

Posted on March 12, 2013 by awentherapy

Last week I wrote about how sometimes it is more important to be kind than it is to be right when we are interacting with important people in our lives. But like most things, there are multiple facets of the … Continue reading →

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The Messages We Send…

Posted on February 5, 2013 by awentherapy

One of the things I spend a lot of time convincing parents is that kids learn more, much more, from parents’ behaviors that they do from their parents words. Parent’s can talk and lecture until they are blue in the … Continue reading →

Posted in Anxiety, Awen Therapy, Challenges, Confidence, Daughters, Eating Disorders, Emotions, Messages, MFT, Mothers, Perfection, Psychotherapy, Relationships, Therapy, Uncategorized, Vulnerability | Tagged Anxiety, Awen Therapy, Confidence, Daughters, Eating Disorders, Looks, Messages, MFT, Mothers, patterns, Perfection, Relationships, Self-Esteem, Therapy, Vulnerability | 1 Comment

Confident…About What?

Posted on November 20, 2012 by awentherapy

I was having a conversation with a friend they other day when they asked me a question that caught me off guard. They asked me “how can you always be so confident and know what to do?” The reason I … Continue reading →

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The Process of Change Revisited

Posted on October 9, 2012 by awentherapy

Sometime back I wrote a post titled Change vs. the Process of Change. I discussed the fact that change is the place we want to be while the process of change is the road to reaching that place. It is … Continue reading →

Posted in Awen Therapy, Change, Emotional Safety, Failure, Fear, Imperfection, Mistakes, Perfection, Perspectives, Psychotherapy, Relationships | Tagged Awen Therapy, Change, Couples, Journey, Perfection, Relationships, Risk, Therapy, Understanding | 2 Comments