Category Archives: Patterns

Two Therapists Talking: Home For The Holidays

In this episode of Two Therapists Talking, Jasmine St. John and I talk about strategies for dealing with the stress that sometimes comes with going home for the holidays. If you have questions or a topic you’d like to hear … Continue reading

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What’s Good for the Goose…

A friend shared the following article by Emma Gray (via The Huffington Post) titled 23 Things Every Woman Should Stop Doing with me. She loved the article, as do I. Her most interesting comment was that she thought this advice applied to … Continue reading

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We Can All Use a Little Help Sometimes…

I had the opportunity to sit in a session with another therapist the other day. I loved having the chance because I think this therapist is one of the best I know.  During the session she used a concept that … Continue reading

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It’s Autumn Again…

Autumn has rolled around once again.  The leaves are almost gone from the trees. The nights are getting colder and hard frosts have spread across the ground in the morning.  This season holds a lot of emotion for me…and, I … Continue reading

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Expectations, Rules and Patterns

A client recently sent me a blog post about rules versus expectations.  It contained a lot of what I agree with.  Basically expectations are the general assumptions we make about other people…about how they will behave in certain situations.  Things … Continue reading

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When a Discussion Isn’t a Discussion

It seems like having actual discussions and debate is becoming a lost art lately.  I mean real, open discussions where things remain on topic and people offer differing thoughts, facts and opinions in response to those same things offered from … Continue reading

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Want Respect? Respect Yourself First.

I talk to a lot of clients that are unhappy with the friends and partners they attract.  They feel the people around them often want to take advantage in some way.  It can be emotionally, physically, financially…it doesn’t matter how.  … Continue reading

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When Being Nice Really Isn’t

(Note – The following post is written from a heterosexual perspective.  I suspect that at least some of the concepts apply to non-heterosexual couples as well.  However, because I have only dealt with these concepts in heterosexual couples I have … Continue reading

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Please Don’t Say I Married My Mother!

You hear it all the time.  I’ve said it to clients. We’ll be discussing your relationship and suddenly I’ll say “Oh, you married your mother (or father).”  The reaction is often the same…” I DO NOT THINK OF MY MOTHER … Continue reading

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