Category Archives: Identity

We Build Our Own Walls…

One of the most amazing things about being a therapist is the chance to see so many dynamics at play from an outside perspective. That perspective is significant because when we look at things from inside of the dynamic, as … Continue reading

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The Importance of Being Who We Are…

A friend recently sent me a link to a Ted Talk that I hadn’t seen. I’ve talked about Ted Talks in the past but if you are a new reader what I’ll say is that Ted Talks are amazing. You … Continue reading

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What Makes Me Me?

I’ve had a rather unusual experience the past few weeks that has caused me to ask myself about what makes me me. Google lets you set up an alert, a search for a certain term so you can keep up … Continue reading

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Letting Others Do The Talking…

There are so many great messages and images floating around on the internet that I thought I’d take this chance to let some of them do the talking.  Here are some thoughts to ponder…             … Continue reading

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Assumptions & Consumption…It will mean more after you read the post.

I love when something happens in therapy and I gain a new perspective or new insight.  I’m fortunate that I often get to do co-therapy with some great therapists.  Right now I’m happy to be seeing some clients with my … Continue reading

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Alternative Sexualities Conference 2012

Last week I was lucky enough to be able to present at the Alternative Sexualities Conference 2012 (please excuse the poor quality picture!).  The conference is sponsored by the Community-Academic Consortium for Research on Alternative Sexualities (CARAS) and was hosted … Continue reading

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Spinning a Tale…

Here I go again.  Another post centered on a TED Talk.  What can I say?  I’m a huge fan.  If I was young and hip I might say I was a fanboy.  Fortunately I don’t suffer from any illusions that … Continue reading

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Want Respect? Respect Yourself First.

I talk to a lot of clients that are unhappy with the friends and partners they attract.  They feel the people around them often want to take advantage in some way.  It can be emotionally, physically, financially…it doesn’t matter how.  … Continue reading

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When Being Nice Really Isn’t

(Note – The following post is written from a heterosexual perspective.  I suspect that at least some of the concepts apply to non-heterosexual couples as well.  However, because I have only dealt with these concepts in heterosexual couples I have … Continue reading

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The Boxes We Build

“I feel like they put me in a box and don’t let me be the real me.” That’s a popular refrain.  If you haven’t said it yourself you’ve probably heard someone say it. The truth is we do put people … Continue reading

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