Category Archives: Failure

Taking a Chance on Change

Change. It seems like it should be so easy. Things are this way. I want them to be that way. I’ll simply do it differently. If only it worked like that all of the time. But too often it doesn’t. … Continue reading

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A Picture May Be Worth A Thousand Words…Are They the Right Ones?

As a therapist I see many different ways that people set themselves up for failure. Sometimes they do it intentionally out of fear or because they gain something else by failing. But sometimes they do it unintentionally. They set an … Continue reading

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Being Right Versus Being Kind – Take 2…

Last week I wrote about how sometimes it is more important to be kind than it is to be right when we are interacting with important people in our lives. But like most things, there are multiple facets of the … Continue reading

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We Can All Use a Little Help Sometimes…

I had the opportunity to sit in a session with another therapist the other day. I loved having the chance because I think this therapist is one of the best I know.  During the session she used a concept that … Continue reading

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Confident…About What?

I was having a conversation with a friend they other day when they asked me a question that caught me off guard. They asked me “how can you always be so confident and know what to do?” The reason I … Continue reading

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The Process of Change Revisited

Sometime back I wrote a post titled Change vs. the Process of Change. I discussed the fact that change is the place we want to be while the process of change is the road to reaching that place.  It is … Continue reading

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Expectations, Rules and Patterns

A client recently sent me a blog post about rules versus expectations.  It contained a lot of what I agree with.  Basically expectations are the general assumptions we make about other people…about how they will behave in certain situations.  Things … Continue reading

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