Category Archives: Expectations

Two Therapists Talking: Rules vs Expectations

In this episode of Two Therapists Talking, Jasmine St. John and I talk about the difference between acting in ways that fit with your partners expectations versus requiring lots of rules to micromanage behavior. If you have questions or a … Continue reading

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What You Don’t Know Might Hurt…

Last week I talked about doing relationships your own way, the way that works for everyone involved, and how so many other people seem intent on telling you the “right”way to do it. This week I want to talk about another … Continue reading

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What’s Good for the Goose…

A friend shared the following article by Emma Gray (via The Huffington Post) titled 23 Things Every Woman Should Stop Doing with me. She loved the article, as do I. Her most interesting comment was that she thought this advice applied to … Continue reading

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The Debate Over Unconditional Love…

I follow a lot of online forums where therapists ask questions or raise topics for discussion. Recently there has been a very active debate about unconditional love. The main question is whether it is just an ideal or is it … Continue reading

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A Picture May Be Worth A Thousand Words…Are They the Right Ones?

As a therapist I see many different ways that people set themselves up for failure. Sometimes they do it intentionally out of fear or because they gain something else by failing. But sometimes they do it unintentionally. They set an … Continue reading

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Expectations, Rules and Patterns

A client recently sent me a blog post about rules versus expectations.  It contained a lot of what I agree with.  Basically expectations are the general assumptions we make about other people…about how they will behave in certain situations.  Things … Continue reading

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