Category Archives: Communication

Why We Should Talk About Sex…

A great article by Kate McCombs (sex educator, blogger, managing editor for MySexProfessor.com, and founder of Sex Geekdom) was published on Kinkly.com Monday. I decided it was too good to save for the end of the week round up of articles. Talking … Continue reading

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What You Don’t Know Might Hurt…

Last week I talked about doing relationships your own way, the way that works for everyone involved, and how so many other people seem intent on telling you the “right”way to do it. This week I want to talk about another … Continue reading

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Two Therapists Talking: Sharing What Makes Us Feel Loved

In this episode of Two Therapists Talking, Jasmine St. John and I talk about the importance of sharing with others what it is that makes you feel loved. If you have questions or a topic you’d like to hear us … Continue reading

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What’s Good for the Goose…

A friend shared the following article by Emma Gray (via The Huffington Post) titled 23 Things Every Woman Should Stop Doing with me. She loved the article, as do I. Her most interesting comment was that she thought this advice applied to … Continue reading

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Getting Distracted…

I was reading an interesting thread of discussion by a group of therapists the other day. One therapist asked the following question – “Is it ever innocent when two married people are exchanging sexually explicit emails without their spouses knowing?” … Continue reading

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More on Being “Too Nice”…

I’ve written before about the phenomenon of being “too nice.”  The other day a woman told me about her frustration with this tendency in men and how she actually has begun using it to her advantage. Being too nice typically … Continue reading

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Creating Emotional Intimacy

Clients often come to therapy and say they don’t have a sense of intimacy.  While that can sometimes include sex it usually is more about something less tangible. They may describe it as a feeling that there is a connection … Continue reading

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Emotional Connection…What Is It?

Emotional connection is a phrase that is often used in therapy. We hear about it frequently.  People say they want it.  I’ve heard people say, “we met and had an instant emotional connection.” Others often say they don’t feel emotionally … Continue reading

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When a Discussion Isn’t a Discussion

It seems like having actual discussions and debate is becoming a lost art lately.  I mean real, open discussions where things remain on topic and people offer differing thoughts, facts and opinions in response to those same things offered from … Continue reading

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Sharing versus Dumping…There is a Difference

There are many reasons people choose to not share personal information, feelings and stories with others.  We all control what we share to varying degrees.  Things like the nature of the relationship usually impact that. For example, you may share … Continue reading

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