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About awentherapy

I am Jay Blevins, LMFT (www.awentherapy.com). I am a licensed systems therapist with a private practice in Madison, WI. While I work with individuals and partners around a wide variety of issues, my primary focus in on alternative relationship structures, alternative sex and sexuality, and power dynamics. I am a contributor to various relationship and sexuality blogs and publications and have been a frequent presenter at alternative lifestyle events and psychotherapy conferences.

What Others Had To Say This Week

Interesting blog posts and news stories from the past week… All Healthy Relationships Have Hiccups – Rebecca Lammersen Discussion versus Debate – Sandy Ikeda The puer aeternus, or ‘Peter Pan Syndrome’ – Patrick McCurry Study cracks how brain processes emotions … Continue reading

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Two Therapists Talking: Safe Space

In this episode of Two Therapists Talking, Jasmine St. John and I talk about what it means to create a safe space in a relationship. If you have questions or a topic you’d like to hear us discuss, write us at TwoTherapistsTalking@gmail.com.

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Tip of the Week: Stand Up for Creativity

Go ahead and be supportive of creativity if you want. But what the title really means is that new research suggests standing results in higher levels of creativity compared to doing the same task while sitting. Groups were given 30 minutes to … Continue reading

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What They Won’t Do For Me…

So many people come to see me and are frustrated that their partner isn’t giving them something that is being asked for over and over. I’m not talking about physical objects. I’m talking about certain behaviors and actions. They don’t … Continue reading

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Thought for the Week

Everyone has their own perspectives, tastes, preferences and desires. And since they do, we will always be subject to criticism from people who don’t like something about us -what we believe, what we do, how we act…it could be anything. The … Continue reading

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What Others Had To Say This Week

Interesting blog posts and news stories from the past week… Yes to Sex in Nursing Homes – Naveed Saleh, M.D. Intimacy: The Whys, Hows, How-Nots, and So-Nots – Heather Corinna Psychologists Have Uncovered a Troubling Feature of People Who Seem Too … Continue reading

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Two Therapists Talking: Unconditional Love

In this episode of Two Therapists Talking, Jasmine St. John and I share our thoughts on the concept of unconditional love. If you have questions or a topic you’d like to hear us discuss, write us at TwoTherapistsTalking@gmail.com.

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Tip of the Week – Judging Your Own Assertiveness

New research suggests that people are not very good at judging how their own level of assertiveness compared to how other people judge them. People who were judged as appropriately assertive by others tended to more often judge themselves as … Continue reading

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Understanding vs. Agreeing With

A lot of my work is centered around alternative sexuality. That means, among other things, kinky sex…like the stuff from Fifty Shades of Grey. (Note: I use that example because of its popularity. I am very much not a fan … Continue reading

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Thought for the Week…

Learning to do something differently always involves a leap of faith. We can prepare and practice, but at some point we have to try on the change and do things differently. We must trust that even if we don’t do … Continue reading

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