Tip of the Week – Judging Your Own Assertiveness

AssertivenessNew research suggests that people are not very good at judging how their own level of assertiveness compared to how other people judge them. People who were judged as appropriately assertive by others tended to more often judge themselves as being too assertive. They ended up trying to follow that up by repairing the relationship when no repair was needed. Those judged by others as being either overly assertive or not assertive enough tended judge themselves as being appropriately assertive.  Be aware of the fact that you may not actually be aware! Get feedback from people you trust about how you handle yourself in different situations.

About awentherapy

I am Jay Blevins, LMFT (www.awentherapy.com). I am a licensed systems therapist with a private practice in Madison, WI. While I work with individuals and partners around a wide variety of issues, my primary focus in on alternative relationship structures, alternative sex and sexuality, and power dynamics. I am a contributor to various relationship and sexuality blogs and publications and have been a frequent presenter at alternative lifestyle events and psychotherapy conferences.
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