Tip of the Week – Don’t Cheer Me Up

low-esteemNew research confirmed something most of us already believe – people with low self-esteem have an overly negative and critical view of themselves. The research goes on to suggest that trying to change that viewpoint with positive reframing or praise and compliments is not productive. The research found that people with a negative view want to have their view acknowledged. The result is that they feel more “normal” and not like someone who is bad or wrong (more criticism confirming their negative self view). Using positive perspectives or reframing often ends up being exhausting and unproductive. So even if you don’t agree with someone’s negative self-image, let empathy be your response.

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About awentherapy

I am Jay Blevins, LMFT (www.awentherapy.com). I am a licensed systems therapist with a private practice in Madison, WI. While I work with individuals and partners around a wide variety of issues, my primary focus in on alternative relationship structures, alternative sex and sexuality, and power dynamics. I am a contributor to various relationship and sexuality blogs and publications and have been a frequent presenter at alternative lifestyle events and psychotherapy conferences.
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