Thought for the Week…Argue Better Not Louder

raise voiceWhen we feel that our point isn’t being heard or understood it can be a natural reaction to say it more emphatically. Too often emphatically means saying it more loudly. Being heard during a disagreement usually isn’t about volume. It is about your point being made in a way that is clear, and important, to the other person. Next time try improving your argument instead of simply increasing the volume.


About awentherapy

I am Jay Blevins, LMFT ( I am a licensed systems therapist with a private practice in Madison, WI. While I work with individuals and partners around a wide variety of issues, my primary focus in on alternative relationship structures, alternative sex and sexuality, and power dynamics. I am a contributor to various relationship and sexuality blogs and publications and have been a frequent presenter at alternative lifestyle events and psychotherapy conferences.
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