Handle With Care…

We're all a little fragileWe are all a little fragile. Even if we don’t want to believe it, life has a way of proving it to us. Sometimes it sneaks up on us and other times it hits like a ton of bricks. Things happen that make realize that there are parts of us that we can’t make invincible, no matter how much we try.

Life is filled with uncertainty. We can plan, prepare and protect but the truth is that difficult things still happen. Our bodies can fail us. Accidents occur. Economies go bad. The list goes on and on. The amount of things that can go wrong at any moment is staggering.

That thought could put us in a pit of despair. But besides being fragile, we are something else as well…resilient. Human beings are amazingly resilient. While we can’t stop bad things from happening, we can heal, adapt, correct and adjust.  We have the ability to deal with the trials and tribulations we face and come out stronger because of them.

In the midst of things it might seem dark, like there is no way out. But that’s not true. We prove to ourselves time and time again that we do survive. We cope with the difficulties we face and go on to have more joys, more happiness, more love and more successes. Because that’s how we are built. Inside of us we all have strength. The strength to overcome the difficult patches in life. At times it may be hard to find, but dig deep and it is there.

And when the person facing the darkness isn’t us, there is something we can do for them, to help them find their way through. We can show compassion. It may not seem like much but compassion is incredibly powerful. By showing compassion we allow others to feel connected. We allow them to feel cared for. We treat them gently instead of adding to the distress.

What I think is so often forgotten is that besides showing others compassion we can show ourselves compassion. Too often we stand in our own way of dealing with difficulties because we fail to show ourselves compassion. Instead we criticize and blame. Often in a way that we would never think of doing to someone else.

The next time you are facing a challenge and life becomes difficult show yourself compassion. Treat yourself gently. After all, we all know that when something is fragile you handle it with care.



About awentherapy

I am Jay Blevins, LMFT (www.awentherapy.com). I am a licensed systems therapist with a private practice in Madison, WI. While I work with individuals and partners around a wide variety of issues, my primary focus in on alternative relationship structures, alternative sex and sexuality, and power dynamics. I am a contributor to various relationship and sexuality blogs and publications and have been a frequent presenter at alternative lifestyle events and psychotherapy conferences.
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2 Responses to Handle With Care…

  1. Judie says:

    Nice Jay-So true-Always be kinder than is necessary because you never know when someone needs it–

  2. What a great piece of writing. I really liked:
    Inside of us we all have strength. The strength to overcome the difficult patches in life.
    I think that it is so important to remind ourselves of this on a daily basis. As you said, it is difficult to show compassion to yourself. Thank you for the inspiration on this great Tuesday.

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